The Internet is great for a lot of things like reading awesome Japanese news sites, finding pictures of adorable animals, and learning some nifty cooking skills. These are all things you can and should do on the wonderful World Wide Web!
But asking for marriage advice from complete strangers when you find out that your wife is working a “night” job? Um, weeeeellll…
While we question the wisdom of that particular choice, it is exactly what Internet user Seibu351 has done on Oshiete! Goo, a Japanese website similar to Yahoo! Answers. For those who haven’t used Yahoo! Answers (we wouldn’t blame you), Oshiete! Goo is basically a place to post questions to be answered by other users. Considering the open nature of the community, you can get either extremely detailed, well-thought-out responses or absurd, crazy comments.
A series of unfortunate events
Perhaps hoping he’d get some of those well-thought-out responses, Seibu351 posted the grisly details of his situation. The basic story is that he’d been married for 10 days when he came home early from a canceled night shift to discover his wife nowhere to be found. Calling her cell phone, he was told that she was out with friends and would come home late. At first he found nothing strange about it since she’d done it before, but then he found a notice for a cabaret club event in one of her drawers a few days later. Cabaret clubs, just in case you aren’t sure, are basically expensive bars where patrons pay to drink with pretty young women. Generally, nothing particularly untoward is supposed to happen at these establishments, but it’s not exactly a place you’d want your new wife working, is it? Especially if she’s keeping it secret!
After questioning her, Seibu351’s wife revealed that she’d been working at a cabaret club for around a month, which came as quite a shock to the husband since they’d been living together for eight months. He says that since she was having health problems and couldn’t get steady employment, he’d been paying all of the rent and utilities.
So, why the heck was she working at a cabaret club then? She explained that while he was paying for rent and utilities, she still needed spending money. For Seibu351, this shook his faith in her to the core even though he had completely trusted her before. The distraught netizen now wondered if he should demand a divorce. Although officially married by submitting the paperwork to their local city office, the couple’s wedding ceremony was coming soon. Seibu351 found himself utterly at a loss as to what to do.
Oshiete! Goo users to the rescue! Most of them generally agreed that the wife was in the wrong:
What the heck? Getting married and still working at a cabaret club…that’s definitely unforgivable.
It’s practically impossible to forgive her for starting to work without saying anything and then keeping it quiet. There are convenience store and newspaper delivery jobs, too. This isn’t a money problem.
It’s definitely questionable for her to do this without talking to you. She should have said something. If you’d both talked, you probably would have been able to find another solution.
Other users took a more patient view of the situation:
I think you two both need to talk more.
If you truly loved and trusted her up until now, I think you need to ask her again if there’s something else behind her working at the cabaret club.
A pickle of a situation
We’ll be honest, this is one pickle of a situation. It’s hard not to feel sympathetic for the husband, but we also imagine that the wife has her own side of the story. So what do you think, readers? Should Seibu351 get a divorce pronto? Or should he take a few days to cool down and then have a clear-headed chat with her?