china and japan

Japan and China are well known for their almost constant bickering. Whether it’s a debate about some past wrongdoing or squabbling over rocks located hundreds of miles out to sea, the pair are seemingly always having a spat about something or other.

This week, a list of 14 purported differences between Chinese and Japanese women – allegedly written by a Chinese national – appeared online. While outlining everything from sex and extramarital affairs to respect for their partners’ parents and money matters, the list casts Chinese women in such a poor light that, as one Weibo user also suggested, we almost wonder whether it was created entirely to put the cat among the pigeons and have Chinese and Japanese net users at each other’s throats.

Here are the “14 differences between Japanese and Chinese women” as they appeared online this week. We strongly urge you to take this with not so much a pinch of salt as a whole cup of the stuff.

1. In Japan, mothers teach their kids to always stand up for what is right and to put a stop to wrongdoing no matter what. Chinese mothers urge their children to run away from evil as wrongdoers will be punished in the afterlife.

2. Japanese women think that Japan is the greatest country in the world. Chinese women, on the other hand, often feel that other countries do things better, suffering from “the grass is always greener” syndrome.

3. Although Chinese women who marry Westerners take enormous pride in doing so, for women in Japan, marrying a foreigner is almost an embarrassment.

4. Japanese women are ladies in public but turn into whores between the sheets. Chinese women, meanwhile, are vulgar when outdoors but act likes ladies in the bedroom.

5. Japanese women prize fidelity over all, focusing on helping their husbands and raising their kids, but China is known for its shockingly high number of extramarital affairs.

6. Japanese women value filial piety, and women treat their husband’s mother as if they were their own. Chinese women just wish their mother-in-law would die and be out of the way.

7. Japanese wives support their husbands with all their might, praising them for their hard work when they come home late from work. Chinese women scold their husbands when they arrive home, demanding to know “Where the hell have you been!?” when he’s late.

8. Young Japanese women tend to marry men around their own age, working to build a life together. Young Chinese women actively seek out a rich older man, not caring about issues like the number of lovers they have previously taken.

9. Japanese mothers teach their daughters to obey their husbands when they marry, and to show respect for their mother-in-law. Chinese mothers urge their daughters to get control of their husband’s finances as soon as they can after tying the knot.

10. Japanese women can deal with the fact that a man might not have much money, but they have no time for cowards. Chinese women can accept a coward, but have no time for men without money.

11. Japanese women find brave men utterly charming, but Chinese women are concerned that such men would be troublesome and bossy in marriage.

12. Japanese women are able to tolerate a husband’s infidelity. Chinese women are able to tolerate their own.

13. Japanese women do not openly speak ill of their men in the media or when in public. Chinese women openly berate their men in the media.

14. On their wedding night, Japanese women will say, “I’m sorry if I don’t do it right.” Chinese women, on the other hand, say “Come on, let’s see how much money we got from our wedding guests!”

If you’ll forgive this writer for interjecting, I’m calling shenanigans on this one. There are elements of truth to the depictions of both country’s women, certainly, but for the most-part this list seems to come down drastically hard on the Chinese. I’ve met plenty of Chinese women who would positively shudder at the idea of marrying an older man purely for his cash, and contrastingly have also encountered Japanese women who were only interested in dating wealthy older men. And, as my own wife would (hopefully) attest, marrying a foreigner is by no means considered a “shameful” thing for a Japanese national to do, at least not in the 21st century.

When this list was shared online, Weibo users in China quickly began dissecting and responding to it. Considering the amount of bashing their women took in the list, the majority of comments were surprisingly restrained.

Differences in culture, perhaps?
Um, this is a little bit harsh, don’t you think!?
Clearly a Japanese person wrote this stuff.
There are plenty of perfectly nice Chinese and perfectly awful Japanese girls too.
I can’t speak for Japan, but I can say that there are actually girls like this in China.
There are good girls and bad girls–the country doesn’t come into it.
I think this was written purely to start a fight rather than an honest debate.
How about we hear about the *men* from either country!?

We have a feeling that the penultimate commenter here may be on to something there.

What are your thoughts on this one, ladies and gentlemen of the big, wide world? Are there any seeds of truth to be found here or is it just kind of typical, provocative trash talk we encounter online all the time?

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